Relationship is the root of well-being.  Without feelings of love, belonging and connection, it is difficult to self regulate and enjoy the wonders of life.  As eloquently stated by Dan Siegiel, in the early stages of development, babies need to be seen and soothed, along with provided an environment of safety and security.  Without feeling safe and secure, mental and physical health issues have a tendency to flourish.  Research shows that our brains are hard wired for love and belonging.

Given the need for connection, relationship challenges are a predominant theme that arises in my current clinical practice as a Registered Clinical Counsellor.  Repeatedly, clients come into the counselling office for support in developing more effective communication skills.  Statements such as, “There is not any physical or emotional intimacy in my relationship with my spouse or partner”.  Or, “I feel so alone even though I know I have a partner to reside with”.  These types of comments provide a ripe field for further exploration.  As such, I have borrowed a multitude of strategies which I share with my clients, to help them learn how to connect at a much deeper level.  According to Terry Real (You Tube podcasts), every relationship moves through “harmony to disharmony to repair”.  Accepting that all relationships, no matter how strong, move through this cycle on a regular basis is somewhat liberating.  It is important to note, however, that it is the repair stage where the rupture is repaired and true healing and transformation occur.

Please refer to my blog on Communication to learn more strategies on how to effectively communicate with others.